Hey lovelies, I hope you’re all well!
Confidence is something I’ve struggled with my entire life, that is up until recently. I’m beginning to really believe in my abilities, trust my instinct and feel happy with who I am. With this new found self confidence I want to help send the message that it is okay to love yourself, it’s healthy and it’s beautiful! I’ve got some little babes from the blogging community to help me out a bit and I’d love if you stuck around and hear what we’ve got to say.
Confidence isn’t something that happens over night, as humans it’s only natural for us question certain qualities about ourselves, but you must know, all these little qualities are what make you, you. There is not one person on the planet that is exactly the same as you, that’s pretty cool right? To me, self confidence is the belief that you are more than enough, that you can do anything, that you can embrace your imperfections and are willing to make changes.
Let’s here what my girls have to say;
Question: How would you define self confidence?
Pauline says: I define confidence as feeling 110% comfortable in your skin with it radiating out naturally
because of you are so aware of your abilities and concrete on your values!
Question: Would you say you’re confident in your own skin?
Gracie says: I would say I am. I never used to be. As a young teen I was very insecure and would always crave attention and compliments to make me feel better. Especially older guys, I would even send nudes if I knew I would get a compliment out of it. I also struggled with quite bad acne so that never made the situation any better. There were days where I felt so terrible about my appearance that I didn’t want to leave my room. Anytime someone said something negative to me even if I knew it couldn’t be true, I would take it personally. For example, I have always been a slim girl but I have had a couple times where people have called me fat. And whilst I knew it couldn’t be possible I still got upset by the comment.
Question: Do you think people confuse confidence with arrogance?
Kirsty says: Yes! That is not to say that confident people are arrogant, not at all. But I think that some people find it hard to believe that some people are just really confident about themselves – and good for them!
Question: What makes you feel most confident?
Emma says: Feeling good about how I look. If I have my nails done, make up is on, my hair is behaving itself for once, and I’m wearing clothes that I feel comfortable yet stylish in, then I find I feel much more confident and sure about myself.
Question: Is there anything you’d change about your appearance, if so why?
Alison says: Yes, the main thing I would change about my appearance are my breasts. They’re huge, too big. I wouldn’t change them for aesthetic reasons, instead I’d change them because they’re so bloody difficult and painful to live with. Constant back aches and they’re always in the way, running is a no unless I want to get slapped in the face and the struggle to actually find clothing and bras that fit is almost impossible.
Originally, this post was going to end here, but Nikki got in touch with me and asked to be a part of this, she’s been tackling living with the realities of low self-esteem and depression and I wanted to share her journey and bravery with you. Nikki has been extremely open and honest with her answer and I’m sure I’m not alone when I say I wish her all the luck in the world to fight back against her daily struggles. I have every faith you will
Question: How did how low self esteem affect you day to day and how have you over come it?
Nikki says: Ok, here goes – each day for me was a complete chore. I’m not going to pretend it’s a complete breeze for me now because it’s not. I still suffer but it’s become a whole lot easier to ‘fake it til I make it’. I had got to a point where all mirrors in my house were covered or turned around, the only mirror I’d look in was my compact mirror as it only shows the part of my face that I was doing my make up on. Every time I walked out of the door, in my head people were staring and judging and I just didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin. And, getting right down to the nitty gritty, it started to affect my relationship – we weren’t intimate and I couldn’t get changed in front of him because I felt like he was staring at me in disgust.
I asked all the girls featured to tell me something they love about themselves, this wasn’t so I’d include it here, it was so they could find some self love. I believe if you can dig down and find one thing you love about yourself, you’re half way there to become confident within your identity!
I guess the message behind this post is to help anyone in need of a little love and anyone struggling with confidence issues. We all have our flaws, all of us, and that’s okay! Embrace who you are, love yourself and the rest will come naturally!
Kisses and Love